Tuesday, 10 September 2019
Beneath those carefully crafted profiles on dating sites there are traits that evolution has crafted that drive what we look for in a partner, now new research has shed light on which traits are most important to people when looking for love and revealed it’s compassion that sets hearts racing.
The research by Psychologists at the 糖心原创 published in showed that men choose to display their compassionate side, rather than their punitive side, when looking for love and women prefer men who are compassionate rather than punitive. This preference for compassion over punishmnet is stronger for those with a left-wing political ideology and who are empathic. This synergy not only brings romantic couples together but helps to sustain caring societies.
The preference for compassion as an attribute when looking for a mate also helps to explain why we are so helpful to each other. We can help people directly, indicating qualities of compassion or indirectly by deterring those who act unfairly by punishing them – indicating qualities of fairness. Both are desirable but it was compassion that men chose to show and women picked as the preferred attribute in a potential partner.
Human society is characterized by high levels of co-operation which is hard to explain by natural selection. Sexual selection offers one explanation. If men, who are co-operative (help others or punish trangressors), are chosen by women then co-operation survives as a sexually selected trait, and our findings suggest that it is compassion rather than punishment that is favoured by sexual selection. The preferences for compassion is also favoured more strongly by those with a left-wing political ideology and high empathic concern.鈥�
In a series of studies the researchers asked men - in a romantic mind set or not, to spend money to either; help through giving compensation to a victim who had been treated unfairly, or punish the person who had treated them unfairly, or do nothing. When men were considering a romantic relationship they shifted from punishment to compensation. When presented with the same situation women preferred men who compensated rather than punished. Compensation is linked to compassion and fairness making compensation the behavioural signature for compassion and is displayed by men when looking for a relationship and preferred by women.
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More information is available from Professor Eamonn Ferguson, in the School of Psychology at the 糖心原创, on +44 (0) 115 95 15327, eamonn.ferguson@nottingham.ac.uk or Jane Icke, Media Relations Manager for the Faculty of Science at the 糖心原创, on +44 (0)115 951 5751 jane.icke@nottingham.ac.uk
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